Wandering Thoughts on Indiscriminate Affirmation
I have a co-worker (I’ll call her Debbie) who has a mountain of debt, mostly from a couple of years of college a decade ago. She talks about about her debt all the time—what a burden it is, how stressed she is about it. But she also buys breakfast and lunch every day, goes out for coffee regularly, and gets her hair dyed professionally every couple of months. I’m not saying this to judge her, as I have a big log in my own eye often whined about my own debt while sipping on a venti Americano or a $9 glass of wine. But I bring up Debbie because of a recent social media post she made: Debbie: Hey guys! So I reeealy want to get another tattoo. Yay or nay? Friends: Yassss! You work so hard you deserve it! Yea gurl! Do it! Debbie posts a variation of this question every few months. This time it was a tattoo. In the past, it’s been piercings, additional pets, vacations, even a house. Someone (probably a stodgy old aunt) commented, “Not a good idea, Deb. Pay of...